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Intimacy Anorexia is the active withholding of emotional, spiritual and sexual intimacy from their spouse or partner. This active withholding impacts the spouse or partner significantly but regardless of pain to self or their spouse/partner they continue.

Dr. Douglas Weiss coined the term intimacy anorexia when he started seeing a separate, yet related aspect of sexual anorexia in his private practice. Intimacy anorexia explains why a person in a relationship actively withholds emotional, spiritual and sexual intimacy from their partner. This active withholding impacts the spouse/partner significantly but regardless of pain to self or their spouse/partner they continue.

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The 11 Characteristics of Intimacy Anorexia

1. Busy

Intimacy anorexics stay so busy that they have little time for their spouse.

2. Blame

The intimacy anorexic will blame their spouse for the problems in the marriage.

3. Withholding Love

The intimacy anorexic actively withholds love the way the spouse likes to be loved.

4. Withholding Praise

Intimacy anorexics do not regularly praise their spouse privately.

5. Withholding Sex

Not all intimacy anorexics withhold sex from their spouse. Most intimacy anorexics do withhold intimacy during sex, however.

6. Withholding Spiritually

Intimacy anorexics can be very religious or a spiritual leader. But at home they rarely connect spiritually with their spouse.

7. Unable to Share Feelings

The intimacy anorexic is someone who is unwilling or unable to share their feelings with their spouse.

8. Criticism

Ongoing or ungrounded criticism toward their spouse is another characteristic of intimacy anorexia.

9. Anger/Silence

An intimacy anorexic can use anger or silence to control their spouse.

10. Money

This is the least common feature of intimacy anorexia but when it’s present it is really strong. The intimacy anorexic will use money to control or shame the spouse.

11. Roommate

The spouse of the intimacy anorexic feels as if they are a roommate rather than a spouse.

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